Angry Rant (M for talk about sexism and swears)

[Lily/Rairi]

Okay, before I start, I'm gonna warn you, this is a long one.

Okay, why can't people realize that even the slightest comment can be taken in a bad light? In particular, sexist comments.

So I'm on a Bleach rp site, and I read in the c-box that someone made comments somewhat along the lines of: (by the way, if you watch Avatar: The Last Airbender, this is a slight spoiler for the finale)

Azula must have been on her period during the finale, she was so crazy. Every time I saw her, I was like "someone get this b**** a tampon"

That's pretty much what he said. So a couple of members commented on the fact that that was a sexist remark, and the guy had the nerve to deny it! He said that since Azula was a cartoon character, it didn't matter. It wasn't directed towards women in general, just Azula. THEN, he proceeded to say that until he got the point of view of a girl, he would stay adamant.

HELLO! I'm a girl, another female member commented that it was offensive! My MOTHER even read what he said and said it was sexist. MY LITTLE SISTER AGREES WITH ME! Girls on other sites agree! I mean, COME ON! Is that enough female response for you? Apparently, not. He still was convinced that he did nothing wrong.

However, myself and a couple of other members tried to tell him that people could take that type of comment to be a sexist remark based on their opinions. That's what we tried to tell him. That in our opinion, it was sexist. He still wouldn't listen. At that point, we agreed that the c-box wasn't a good place to discuss this, so we decided to take it to pms. So I promptly pm'ed the admin with my complaints on this member.

Guess what? All the admin did was remove the c-box. No mentions of the offending member, no actions taken. The guy is still an active member, and I AM PISSED! As a woman myself, what that guy said was HIGHLY offensive to me, and I can't believe that the admin would take it so lightly.

DAMNDAMNDAMNDAMNDAMNDAMNDAMNDAMN DAMNIT!

So, now I'm debating leaving an rp site I was excited to join. If the admin is going to allow such members to remain unpunished, then why should I stay? It isn't a safe environment anymore.

So yeah. Thanks for reading my angry rant.

[Yugi Mutou/Yami Yugi]

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Wow. Ya, that was definitely pretty sexist, though I don't think he meant it to be that way. Unfortunately I haven't seen the finale (or any of this season), so I have no idea what he's talking about anyway.

And it may be sort of bad, but it made me lol when I read it was on a Bleach RP site.

[Kira]

(I'm going to take the admins point of view here)

I think your over-reacting about this, it was a sexist comment, but the c-box should have been taken away. If the members were so immature to argue about such a thing. You really shouldn't have been posting on a public c-box that ALL people, even guests, can see people might turn away from the site not just because one member is being sexist, but because the members don't get along and with fight with each other.

As for what may have happened to him, alot of sites give a second chance, especially if he didn't think of it as a sexist comment, and even if he did get a warning - why should the admin feel compelled to tell you about it? Would you like if something like that happened to you and the admin announced to all the members what happened, it's called privacy.

[Yugi Mutou/Yami Yugi]

*facepalm* Don't try to talk sense to angry women that are riled up about sexism!

^ Slightly sexist comment.

Anyhoo, I guess Kira does have a point. Though I would just ban that guy from the Cbox and warn the people who were arguing with him to not argue in the Cbox and just report to the Admin next time.

[Lily/Rairi]

I should have mentioned this before, I am one of the mods at that site.

[Yukiko Kouryuu[Seluna Olympia]]

Really? Wow...Then the admin should have listened to you. -- But he/she didn't? Talk about not doing anything.

[Kira]

i wouldn't ban him from anything the first time, sexism isn't something you should take lightly, it'd be a warning and a forum ban next time, even if it happened in the C-box. If i heard that the members were getting into a fight in the c-box I'd take the whole thing down for a few days so everyone can cool down.

But you are over-reacting, if it'd been offensive to anyone else, any race of people that do not even go on the site it'd been a funny joke. You can say no all you want, but people would laugh if someone wasn't there to say "Hey, that joke's making fun of me." It's human nature.

(mostly Yuki / Lily if she doesn't understand)
I'm wasn't there and i don't go on the site but it seems like your taken a bias view of the whole thing(again human nature), you don't think someone can be warned with-out it being in public? I'm just trying to take my non-bias view of the vaguely described fight that went on.